Prenup Hypocrisy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCMkURGzcm8

The Catholic Church works very hard to avoid having anyone understand the content of the linked video above. If a couple creates and signs a prenup, the existence of that prenuptial agreement can be used later to justify an annulment in the Catholic Church. The reasoning is, that any couple who signed a prenuptial agreement weren't really serious about the "until death do us part" part. They were open to the possibility that the marriage would fail.

Keep in mind that this is unusual to marriage. Buying life insurance does not make you immediately unable to receive Anointing of the Sick, but creating and signing a prenup makes your marriage functionally invalid.

Yet, at the very same time the Church repudiates your personal prenuptial agreement, it insists that neither the marriage can be held, or the annulment proceedings begun, unless legal documents from the government are first obtained. You have to get a marriage license from the government before the Catholic Church will permit you to exchange vows and receive the graces of the sacrament. You have to get the divorce recognized by the government, and have that documentation from the government in hand, before you can start an annulment process in the Church.

Due to the way secular marriage law works, the government gives you the marriage certificate with a government-constructed prenuptial agreement. It's all part of the same document. There is literally no way around that, nor any separation between the government marriage contract and its built-in government prenuptial agreement that details what happens if the contract is later ended. 

Here's the odd part: the Church is fine with the government prenuptial agreement. In fact, the Church functionally insists you obtain the government prenuptial contract before you are permitted to exchange vows for the sacrament. In short, the Church recognizes the government's prenup, just not yours. Your marriage vows aren't good enough. The government has to recognize the vows first. Your prenup is proof that you weren't serious, but the government's pre-established prenup that you both agreed to when you got married -  your acceptance of THAT prenup is fine. You can't receive the sacrament until you get that secular, government prenup. 

As the man said, have you ever walked into the DMV and thought, "Yeah, I want these people deeply involved in how my marriage is structured." If you haven't thought that, then you aren't thinking about your marriage the same way the Catholic Church is thinking about your marriage.