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Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Immaturity, Thy Name Is Woman

Recently, a news story about men, video games and porn has been making the rounds.

Every time it is posted somewhere, everyone clucks with concern over the absolute fools that men are making of themselves.

Women, especially Catholic Women (tm), write despairing blogs about the immature male, especially the immature Catholic male. You know the one - he refuses to commit, to settle down, to pop the question, even to date whichever unhappy Catholic woman happens to be writing the blog that day.

It's all his fault. He's using porn, playing World of Warcraft, going to work, instead of paying attention to her. Damnably beastly of him.

The whole thing reminds me of nothing so much as the world-wide concern about the welfare of Catholic children.

You know the drill - sexual abuse by public school teachers, rabbis, atheists, fast food managers, swimming coaches, football coaches is largely ignored or considered one-off events: odd and unusual. But sexual abuse of Catholic children by priests!!! That's a consistent, continuing abuse that all people are always concerned about.

So, everyone is deeply concerned about immature men, immature Catholic men.
But why don't we get concerned about the way CATHOLIC WOMEN are harming themselves and society?

Let's take one example: divorce.

Women initiate divorce more often than men.
In fact, women initiate divorce over 60% of the time.
If both spouses are college-educated, women initiate divorce 90% of the time.
"The majority of midlife divorces are initiated by women. Don't believe it? In the AARP survey, 66 percent of women reported that they asked for the divorce, compared with 41 percent of men. And men more often than women were caught off-guard by their divorce.."

"The perceived benefits of divorce differ by gender. Women were far more likely than men to say that having their own self-identity was a top reward.... 43 percent of women said they emerged from the split against remarriage. Only 33 percent of men said they wouldn't remarry."
So, why are women ruining their own lives and the lives of their husbands and children? After all, women who divorce are much more likely to be single head of households, and single households are largely impoverished.

This is important.
Everyone knows that women and children are more likely to be poor.
No one knows that it is the women who deliberately impoverish their own children.

And why did women financially destroy their own lives and the lives of their children?
Well, these women wanted to find their identity!
It looks like that whole Teen Mom show could extend the age of female participants to about 50 without changing its emotional approach to life one whit.

You know, in ages past, we had a specific word to describe this approach to life: hysteria. "Hystera" is the Greek word for "uterus", the idea being that women are illogical because they let their wombs rule them rather than their rationality. Today, it is considered bad form to lodge such accusations against women. On the other hand, it is perfectly acceptable... nay... it is considered the height of hilarity to imply that a man was thinking with his little head instead of his big one.

Of course, putting it that way is considered crude.
The enlightened, educated way of reversing the stereotype is to ask why men, especially Catholic men, are so wrapped up in pornography and video games.

So, we ask why men, especially Catholic men, are so immature.
But we are no longer allowed to ask why women, especially Catholic women, are so immature.

But don't these questions deserve to be asked?
How can we stop the rampant immaturity, the hypergamic hysteria, among women that is on display in this divorce culture of ours? Why do we allow women to ruin modern society this way? How can we wean women off their mindless pursuit of "self expression" and "self-identity"?

Undoubtedly, men are avoiding commitment to these hordes of immature women for very good reason.

Maybe the problem isn't that men are immature, but that immature women flock around them, whining for a date, for a ring, for a husband ... and when they get it? They divorce the man, pick up the alimony paycheck, and go looking for their identity, which they apparently lost somewhere on the way to the altar.

Obviously, given these divorce statistics, we need to start a national conversation, a national movement to help women stop their narcissistic behaviours.

We have endless men's groups to wean men off of pornography.
Where are the women's groups that wean women off of divorce and their motivation for wanting a divorce?

Where is Narcissists Anonymous?

I nearly forgot to add this little tidbit in.
Blood bank testing inadvertently shows that 28% of children don't have the Dad they think they do.
Gives you a whole new understanding of who is acting irresponsibly, doesn't it?

And that's just the children in families with serious family medical issues. The blood banks figured it out because the families had to go to a blood bank and test for a possible transfusion for a family member. What are the rates in other kinds of families?

You see, this was a blood bank study, and blood bank studies can be fooled.
Let's just take the most common markers - ABO and Rh.
A, B and Rh are all dominant.
O is regressive.
A, B and Rh+ all indicate that certain proteins exist on the red blood cell's surface.
O and Rh- means those proteins aren't there.

So, if Dad is O and Mom is O, but the kid is A, B or AB, then that child clearly came from a different dad.
He has proteins on his red blood cells that couldn't come from Mom or "Dad."

Same with Rh. If Dad is O- and Mom is O-, but the kid is O+, then daddy don't live at that house.
He's got proteins from somebody else.

But what if Dad is A, Mom is B or O, and the kid is O?
Well, we can't tell from just the blood test. Dad may actually be AO. And if Mom had a fling with a Type O man, you wouldn't be able to tell from the AB blood test.

Same with Rh  - if Mom is Rh+, Mom can have a fling with ANYONE and the Rh factor wouldn't tell.

So, using only the markers that blood banks can say, without shadow of a doubt, that Dad is a cuckold, 28% of fathers are being cuckolded.

But you won't see an article wringing it's hands about female flings based on these facts.
Well, except for this one.


Andrew said...

The key to having women act like ladies is for men to act like gentlemen. The reverse is also true. "Feminism" is a somewhat misleading name. Most of what goes by that label is really devoted to social androgyny. They're androgynists.

How to stop divorce? If someone is open to the possibility of divorce you don't marry them.


c said...

The Bible says for wives to submit to their husbands. Men who don't lead leave nothing for their wives to submit to. If the woman finds herself running the whole show, neither has the husband obeyed the command to love his wife. She adopts any reason and hits the road. And you blame HER?

Steve Kellmeyer said...

That's right, I BLAME HER.
She's the one filing the divorce papers, right?
No one has a gun to her head, right?
Then absolutely I blame her.

Any other questions?

Chris Williams said...

Perhaps wives leave their husbands when they realize their husbands have turned into snarky pricks like you.

Not Your Wife (fortunately)

Steve Kellmeyer said...


Whatsamatter? You don't like the idea that women can sin?

c said...

Why the rage? Of course women can sin. I am unhappily married to a jerk of a fellow and even my pastor shakes his head.

c said...

But I'm staying put.

Steve Kellmeyer said...


He is your cross, m'dear.
And - never forget - YOU are his.

c said...

If you can't show respect for faithful Catholics, I'm outta here.

Steve Kellmeyer said...

Look up hypergamy...
Try to either outgrow it (really hard) or find out what your husband excels at and admire him for that.

Everyone excels at something, and you married him because he in some way did once excel at it, so you have to figure out what that positive thing is now.

Good luck.

Steve Kellmeyer said...

If referring a Catholic to the cross is not respectful, what is?

As for the laughter, stop taking yourself so seriously. Maybe he's a jerk because you're a glum witch.

Steve Kellmeyer said...

Did it ever occur to you that your pastor might be shaking his head at YOU, not at your husband?

But he won't say what he's thinking out loud because he doesn't want you to jump down HIS throat.

Just a possibility.

Andrew said...

Women sin. Men sin. Every human person sins, except for Our Lady, that's why the Immaculate Conception is something special.

In marriage problems, both spouses are best served by examining themselves and embracing their cross.

However, just as a wife can't dump all the blame on her husband, a husband can't dump all the blame on his wife. Adam tried that. It didn't work. A man is the head of the family and bears ulitimate responsiblity for it.

If many women petulant jerks, they do bear personal responsiblity for that, but someone else with a big share of the culpability is their father.


Walter Sullivan said...

Steve, I think GOD is shaking his head at YOU after some of your behavior in this comments section.

Shame on you, son.

Steve Kellmeyer said...

Well, thanks for judging me, Walter.
I really appreciate it.

And I didn't get you anything.
I feel bad now.

Nilk said...

What's interesting about these comments is the typical shaming language used against Steve.

He has committed the cardinal sin of pointing out that women are the driving force behind divorce, and maybe with this in mind men might have a very good reason to stand back from marriage. Regardless of your faith or lack thereof.

C: "And you blame HER?"
Chris Williams:"..snarky pricks like you."
Walter:"Shame on you, son."

And yet, if the post was about men initiating divorce, there would be much clucking over how terrible it is that men won't commit.

I don't buy it.

There are now decades of data that show how women can and do greatly contribute to the divorce culture in the Western world, and all the pouting in the world won't change that.

We are all human, and all sinners, so rather than take umbrage at Steve pointing this particular issue out, how about stopping to consider that he might have something.

Off the Coast of Utopia said...

In order for marriage to thrive it has to be made appealing to men and this is no longer the case. Until this changes, starting with the repeal of no fault divorce and mandatory father first custody in all divorce cases, expect the numbers to continue their decline.

merdy said...

Steven Baskerville wrote "Taken Into Custody". If after reading his book young women still think men should commit to marriage, let them honestly ask themselves: "Would they be willing to endure the societal misandry awaiting their man after divorce?"

"Probably not" in 99%+ of the cases. Go figure why marriage is in decline.

Stewart Griffin said...

Excellent post.

People need to get other the idea that women are angels that should never be held accountable for anything gone wrong in the world.

Dymphna said...

There's an old saying, "Mama's baby. Daddy's maybe." Well now we have DNA testing and a lot of men have discovered that maybe was actually "not yours".