"When people stop talking, that's when you get violence, that's when civil war happens."
Charlie Kirk was not only stupid, he was dangerously wrong.
He suffered under the delusion, a feminist delusion, that if we all just sat around a campfire and talked things out, then everything would work out and violence could be avoided.
This is nonsense. Once you have made your position absolutely crystal clear, once your opposition has absolutely no illusions about where you stand, then to the extent that your position contravenes his on a position of central importance, he has no choice. One of you will be fired, be removed. One of you will die.
The Socratic dialogues is the story of a man who spent a lot of time trying to be as crystal clear as possible. The state executed him. President John Kennedy publicly pleaded, quoting Isaiah, "Come, let us reason together!" Isaiah was sawn in half, Kennedy was shot in the head. Charlie Kirk insisted on repeating his arguments over and over until his positions were crystal clear. He wouldn't stop, so he was shot.
Poor communications permit compromise. The refusal to define terms, the willingness to engage in equivocations, allows your opponent wiggle room. As Sun Tzu says, "When you surround an army, leave an outlet free." Always give your enemy the means to escape, so he doesn't decide to die on his feet instead of on his knees.
Crystal clear communications removes the enemy's ability to escape. Unclear communications allows the opponent to think he may have misunderstood, that perhaps you do share common ground and he can eventually bring you around to his way of thinking. But clarity... clarity is the death of this hope.
This is why bureaucracies engage in obfuscation. They are designed to make sure no one knows exactly what the government means or wants. Entire decades of foreign policy are built around deliberately refusing to clarify what America's position is on Taiwan or Korea. Israel won't say whether it does or doesn't have nukes. The examples could be easily multiplied.
This is the female mode of communication. Women are weaker than men, they will consistently lose in direct confrontations, so they obfuscate. They hint, they misdirect, they play mind games, redefine language, do whatever is necessary to avoid clarity, to give themselves wiggle room in front of a superior foe.
This is not the way men communicate. This is also why Ephesians commands men to die in the marriage. Women aren't capable of the direct, clear communications necessary to carry on a marriage. The Scriptures specifically deny that women are good at any of this. Women are described as honey tongued, smoother than oil, but more bitter than wormwood. According to Scripture, women are the source of infidelity and sin, not men.
According to the Catholic principle of subsidiarity, the person closest to a task should bear the most responsibility and direction for that task. Men have headship precisely because Scripture sees men as closer to the absolute heart of marriage, of personal relationships, the master of communications and interpersonal connections. Women don't have headship in a marriage because women aren't very good at being married. Women are not at the heart of marriage.
The traditional three purposes of marriage are:
- improving the sanctity of the spouses,
- the procreation of children
- remedy for concupiscence
But procreation, which is the specialty of women, is not at the heart of marriage. If it were, Josephite marriages could not be a real thing. Yet the Church teaches that Josephite marriage, which shuns all sexual intercourse, is actually superior to a procreative marriage.
If women were really better than men at communications, personal relationships, or marriage itself, then women would have headship. Women don't have headship precisely because they aren't good at any of these things. Women initiate 80% of the divorces because in general, women are lousy at communications, lousy at interpersonal relations, lousy at marriage. That is Scripture. That is why Scripture says men must die in marriage, but women must only submit.
In Holy Orders, the parishioner is required to submit to the priest, the priest required to submit to the bishop. The grace of the sacrament means the bishop is better at carrying authority than the priest, the priest better than the lay person. Marriage is also an ordo. So, similarly, in the ordo of marriage, the grace of the sacrament makes the man better than the woman at all these things.
But now I am communicating Church doctrine far too clearly. Yet, the heart of the Christian message is simply this: Clear Communications Kills.
Do you want the Gospel in six words? Here it is, as clearly and concisely as it can be put:
The minute Charlie Kirk insisted on clearly communicating his position, clearly repeating his position, clearly removing all possible doubt about what his position might be, he had to die.
If you teach your children that they can "talk it out" without resorting to violence, you are either lying to them, or you are teaching them how to lie. If they really, truly, talk it out, someone is going to die.
